Everyone thought we had the "perfect marriage"...the kind worthy of #relationship goals
What people didn't know was that more often than not, we were fighting.
It wasn't just a little I'm mad at you kind of fight either, it was almost always "I can't stand you, I wish you'd just leave" kind of fight.
One day we literally had a knock down drag out fight because we couldn't agree if it was raining or sprinkling. Really! We can laugh at it now, but that fight was at its core exactly what all of our other fights were about...Wanting to be right!
For years we tried to talk through the situations on our own, only to keep circling around the same conversations to get the same results.
Do you know the definition of insanity?!
We continued this cycle until we had no other choice but to deal with our stuff or walk away.
So we finally reached out to our village, the ones who kept us accountable to the promises we made before God when we said "I do".
We changed our focus from the other person to looking at ourselves, our perspectives and eventually began changing our hearts.
The thing about marriages, is that as long as you're pointing the finger and trying to change the other person, you will never see the part you are playing in the breakdown of the relationship.
We've been through a lot of pain, a lot of pressure, a lot of sleepless nights and tears.
While we don't believe God caused the problems(we did a great job all on our own), we do believe He allowed us to go through the trials to learn valuable lessons.
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